DNA and Online Search Finds Birth Parent 198
stuyman writes "NewScientist is reporting that anonymous sperm donation is not so anonymous anymore. An enterprising 15 year old tracked down his biological father, an anonymous sperm donor, using an online genealogy service and an online information service."
A potentially ugly situation (Score:4, Interesting)
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:3, Interesting)
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:2)
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:2, Informative)
As for "stealing" sperm... she'd have to get
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:2)
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:2)
According to RFA, his donor had been anonymous.
Re:A potentially ugly situation (Score:5, Funny)
Boy: Doctor, you told my mother that my father was an Astrophysics major at MIT and was born on July 16, 1968. But I tracked down the only man who fits that description and he's oriental which, as you can see, I am not.
Doctor: Uh, er, yes, I see... That is a problem, isn't it? There must have been some sort of mixup. Uh, what was your name again?
Boy: Luke.
Doctor: Well I suppose I have something I should tell you. And actually you might find this rather funny if you are a Star Wars fan. You see Luke...
That's pretty close to it. (Score:2)
I listened to an interview with a guy that runs a sperm bank, and he said that until laws were changed to allow people to donate for money, most all sperm used for artificial insemination was either that of the physician or from one of the interns.
steve
Re:That's pretty close to it. (Score:2)
There's a great article on the guy who made sperm banks what they are today - it's rather interesting, in fact. For one, they guy was a eugenicist! http://www.reason.com/0510/cr.kh.the.shtml [reason.com]
Re:Bullshit (Score:2)
Re:Bullshit (Score:4, Funny)
He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:5, Interesting)
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:3, Funny)
"the baby they gave up because they couldn't raise her"
OMG, show a picture, ur a girl on tha intarweb!
-/Sorry for lowering the Slashdot discourse. You of course don't have to show a picture to prove your gender.
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
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Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:4, Funny)
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Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Holy smokes!
Netcraft confirms it: Girls on Slashdot.
I know this is only one of the first of many of these posts, and I'm sorry, but I couldn't resist. I also can't help but notice your uid is a whole lot lower than mine
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Hire some neutral 3rd party(lawyer,PI,etc.) to find out who they are and let them know you're willing to establish contact if they want (via the 3rd party first time at least) but if not then the third party doesn't tell you anything or them anything.
The third party knows who everyone is, but niegther you nor they know unless both agree.
I could swear I've heard of at least one service that helps tr
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Mycroft
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
You might want to consider that one might work out the other way around. If you've ever heard the expression, "Sorry I asked...".
I was also adopted, and some of my birth father's relatives tracked me down (he himself is long since dead).
Turns out I'm related to a n
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
I've had people (including my wife) ask me "don't you want to meet him, or at least find out who he is?"
My response is pretty much what QuantumG said - finding out won't solve anything. It won't change who I am. It won't give me any insight into my nature. It would just be a waste of my time.
No
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
Most people consider family to be a good thing. If someone is adopted, well then they potentially have twice as much family as most people. And if you don't like what/who you find, well you can just write them off and be no worse than when you started.
If you're adopted and have no interest in your "genetic donors", fine. But I don't see any reason for the hostile tone towards people who do have an interest in meeting/exploring their gen
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
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Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
This is probably what to expect for you too if you can find them. You will get two more nice friends that might be nice to be around.
Re:He didn't need DNA to narrow the search down (Score:2)
At long last.... (Score:5, Funny)
Re:At long last.... (Score:2)
Supafly [atomfilms.com]
Could lead to trouble (Score:4, Interesting)
She got one of yo kids got you for 18 years
I can just picture someone tracking down an anonymous sperm donor and trying to get child support out of them. Or is this subject covered in the contract you sign at the clinic?
Re:Could lead to trouble (Score:2, Interesting)
Only in America.
he should sue right back, but in civil court (Score:3, Interesting)
He should try a civil suit for damages though. Punitive damages would be neat. Every month he pays her, and every month she pays him. If triple damages are awarded, he could make out pretty well.
Just for revenge, criminal charges of fraud would be fun too. That's yet another court.
Re:Could lead to trouble (Score:2)
"She asserts that when plaintiff 'delivered' his sperm, it was a gift -- an absolute and irrevocable transfer of title to property from a donor to a donee," the decision said. "There was no agreement that the original deposit would be returned upon request."
Who'da thunk that getting a blowjob involves a property transfer from one person to another. Sticky business, these things.
Ooh, anecdotes! (Score:2)
Fer real.
Except it actually happened... (Score:3, Informative)
A more famous case (Score:2)
Just google for "Boris Becker" "broom cupboard" [google.de]
In short: after losing a match at Wimbledon he took comfort in a quick BJ from a Russian model who impregnated herself (BJ happened in a broom cupboard of a restaurant, hence the query terms) .
The MOTHER sued (Score:2)
He said he didn't find out about the child for nearly two years, when Irons filed a paternity lawsuit.
The man's name was Phillips.
Re:Could lead to trouble (Score:2)
Re:Could lead to trouble (Score:2)
Re:Could lead to trouble (Score:3, Informative)
A more likely contract, offered at at least a few places i've worked with, works more like insurance: if a claim for child support is made against you (the sperm donor) then the clinic will pay it off for you. The clinic then has contracts to further pass this risk on to their insurance c
I wonder (Score:5, Funny)
Re:I wonder (Score:2)
Re:Just for that... (Score:2, Funny)
Oh god..you just had to didn't you? Think of the children!
Not Anymore (Score:5, Interesting)
What I'm noticing here is that these records have had to be held since around 1980... which suggests that it never really was that anonymous. I mean, back in 1990 you could still get DNA testing done (for a price).
Informational Awareness (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:3, Insightful)
I agree and think that people put too much importance in biological links compared to what really matters: living together, educating the kids.
Would it really matter if you're biological father/mother was someone else instead of your real (ie the one who have raised you) father/mother?
It takes 30sec/9 month to make a children, it takes *20 years* to raise a children!
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
I understand where people like you are coming from, but raising a child can only channel the expression of what's preordained by the DNA. For example, to be a genius requires the genetic predisposition - you can't create it by raising the child, you only can nurture it. Which the GGP post was kind of referring to. Of course, raising is important as you can fail to realize the potential locked in the DNA, or worse, subvert
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
Dude, at least give her enough time to fake it.
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
Wouldn't you want to make sure you're not in love with your half-sister? In that sense, your biological parentage matters a great deal.
Mal-2
It contacting me.... (Score:4, Interesting)
Re:It contacting me.... (Score:2)
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Re:Informational Awareness (Score:4, Insightful)
Less than half? Does 49% of your DNA come from your mother, 49% of your DNA come from your father, and the remaining 2% is from the aliens who abducted your parents?
I'm scratching my head over this one. You better not bring up some bullshit about mitochondrian DNA, since there was nothing in the grandparent's post that excluded the poster from being female.
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
IANA Biologist/geneticist/other-related-field, but as I understand it the non-nuclear dna is pretty important as well.
Mycroft
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
A minor detail (Score:2)
Actually, it's unlikely that the grandparent post was referring to a female sperm donor being tracked down by her offspring.
Re:Informational Awareness (Score:2)
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OK, that's fine for you, but if it were some other guy, that was having a rough time in his life because he was interrupted while hitting his crack pipe and generally kinda bummed that he cannot afford his AZT anymore to help with his AIDS that he got while prostituting himself to men on Hollywood blvd. That
Where to go? (Score:3, Funny)
Second. (Score:3, Funny)
He's typing one-handed. (Score:2)
If you want to count errors, the last sentence is a fragment, not a complete sentence.
It's a stupid American thing. (Score:2)
Jakin' for beer money! OH YEAH! (Score:3, Funny)
A lot more apealing than giveing blood... Get paid to jack off? Just set up a nightly pick-up route in the freshman dormatories of any college!
I'd like to nominate this guy (Score:3, Funny)
DNA Incrimination by Extrapolation (Score:2)
Oh shit, restrictions on being born! (Score:5, Funny)
A case of too much Slashdot reading, methinks.
Slashdot Prank? (Score:2)
What a scare that gave me (Score:2, Funny)
The scariest thing is if it really had said patent I wouldn't have found it that implausible.
Douglas Adams was a real prophet... (Score:3, Interesting)
Had to read the headline twice (Score:2)
I thought, uhm why? I, for one, am fairly sure I was born here on earth.
I guess this redefines the term.... (Score:2)
Uh Oh! (Score:2)
This is bad. Real bad.
CSI Episode here we com (Score:2)
Re:People deserve all they get (Score:5, Insightful)
What exactly is wrong with donating to a sperm bank? It allows people to have kids that might otherwise not be able to.
And what exactly is wrong with using the money for beer? Beer is good.
And how exactly could the child become emotionally scarred? By finding out at least one of his genetic parents is not part of his family? Why exactly does that matter? He has (presumably) two parents who love him and wanted him enough to go to extraordinary measures to have him. Isn't that good enough?
And if he didn't know that he was a sperm bank baby, and it does scar him, isn't it the fault of his parents that actually take care of him, for not telling him before he found it out on the internet?
Could you please expound on what, exactly, is wrong with this situation in your view? I can't figure it out beyond the possibility that you want to whine about 'them damn college students!'
Who cares? (Score:2)
Come on! This was donated sperm, no adoptions took place, and who's to say what the doner spent the fee on? The beer suggestion was just speculation. Maybe the doner spent it on rent
Re:Who cares? (Score:2)
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:3, Interesting)
I hear this bullshit from people all of the time. One of my friend's insists I'm a "rare case." My parents, my only set of parents before you come up with some stupid term for the people who had to fuck to make me, are unable to have children.
Outside of having weird questions (How do I know my medical history? How do I know my ancestry? Eventually I guess you give up and realize you don't know those things, and neither does anybody else), I'm no different than anyone else.
W
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:2)
You may not, but it doesn't seem that uncommon. I don't understand the urge to watch soccer games, but there you go.
If I did meet my genetic "parents," if they must so be called, they would be no different from any other random SOB off the street.
Well they would be different, in that they would be alike you in certain ways, at the very least I can understand a dispassionate semi-scientific interest in tal
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:2)
Agreed, but hey in this case he is fifteen years old! Give him time..
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:3, Insightful)
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:5, Insightful)
These kids aren't adopted. These people aren't selling babies for beer money. They're selling people the opportunity to have 'their own' children, merely with someone else's genetic material. These kids weren't abandoned by some 'original' parents. Their parents are the people who went to the sperm bank, and got pregnant, and so on, specifically because they wanted a child. These children are living with their real parents. The fact that the semen came from some other guy's penis, whatever the motivation, seems like an infinitesimal part of the equation, unless you're worried about genetic diseases or something.
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:2)
You do realize that the fertility clinic is the one who profits from this, right? Where are they supposed to get the sperm? Ever think of that?
I've got news for you... in the US, people donate blood for beer money too, and they don't give a second thought where it goes. I see this as no different. The
Re:I don't think you've thought it through. (Score:2)
Re:People deserve all they get (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:People deserve all they get (Score:2)
Oh.
Whoa.
I guess I'll be canceling that appointment, then.
Re:People deserve all they get (Score:2)
Oh...
I guess maybe that explains all the screaming and kicking and scratching yesterday.
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Re:This shouldn't be permitted (Score:3, Interesting)
It should be possible for the 'birth parents' to deny thier identies being given without consent however.
My aunt gave birth to three children in her life, but gave the second one up for adoption. No one knew except (maybe, not a clear detail here) her best friend who she stayed with the last 5 months of the pregnancy and she claimed the child had been still-born.
Re:This shouldn't be permitted (Score:2)
How could a child born from a donated sperm destroy a family? From my point of view, there are much worse things that can destroy a family. Adultery, for example.
Re:This shouldn't be permitted (Score:2)
Re:Sperm Donor? Willingly? (Score:2)
~Pev
Re:College papers (Score:2)
~Pev