Party Ideas For Math Nerds? 529
rbf writes "A girl I like at my university, a graduate student in mathematics, will be having a birthday next month. She had thought of throwing a nerd-themed party — show up with tape on your glasses, pants hiked up, etc. However, she decided against it because most of her friends are math nerds and wouldn't even have to dress up! So my question for the community is: What fun party ideas would appeal to a group of mostly math-major nerds?"
Party ideas that would appeal to math majors? (Score:5, Insightful)
Ask at xkcd (Score:5, Insightful)
Uh... a normal party? (Score:5, Insightful)
All else fails, just have an orgy. That has to be new and interesting to nerds. j/k
Okay, stop right there ... (Score:5, Insightful)
If that's way off base, at least here's a party idea: have everyone come dressed up as a liberal arts student.
Cheers,
IT
Re:Hookers (Score:5, Insightful)
Re:Sex party! (Score:3, Insightful)
Don't be daft! (Score:5, Insightful)
I've spent the last 11 years at various math institutions and conferences all over the world. I think I qualify as a "math nerd", and I have a PhD to prove it. I find the question dumb, and somewhat insulting.
Firstly the whole idea that their is a single "math nerd" type is ridiculous. Very few mathematicians I know fit into the high pants and thick glasses type. A lot of people at my institution are musicians, several play in rock bands at night, some dance, some are training buffs, one guy I know is combining his PhD with playing professional sports and is on his way to Olympics. While most are still guys, a growing portion are girls: some are straight, some are gay, some are single, quite many are married. In fact the variety is probably the only defining feature I can find.
And when it comes to partying, the only special way I can think of that mathematicians like to party is hard. I can remember from many times the surprise of "numerotypicals" after having partyed till dawn with a bunch of mathematicians. While there are certainly the "study and never leave the lab" types - most math nerds know are more like the opposite. The reason for this is probably that math is high stress occupation (try having as your job to push your mind to the very limit of its ability every day) which tends to lead to hard partying behavior. The stress is also the reason why many mathematicians are creatively worn out by 35-40.
So, seriously, stop the silly patronizing and just organize a good party. With lots of booze.
Re:Three things. (Score:5, Insightful)
Absolutely though please go study dating like you study in school. It is common knowledge that you can never understand the opposite sex but it is so wrong wrong wrong! Study women like you study math and you will finally get what you want.
And take a tip from someone who HAS done the studying. Helping her throw a party wont impress her. It will only make her less attracted to you romantically.
Re:Uh... a normal party? (Score:4, Insightful)
You see, when I read that it makes me think you're in the wrong field. Sure, I wouldn't go to a party to solve PDEs [wikipedia.org] but I would love a maths themed party because I find it interesting. Little maths jokes, fractal cookies [evilmadscientist.com] (suggested before), everyone in xkcd shirts... it'd be awesome!
Re:Three things. (Score:5, Insightful)
Friend Zone (Score:3, Insightful)
I'm not saying be an asshole, but women expect different things from a lover and a friend.
Re:Three things. (Score:3, Insightful)
I have a friend that always shoots himself in the foot with this stupid crap. First, he tries to impress them with how "deep" he is and then with how smart he is. He's actually a great guy until the women come around and then it's like he puts on this "artiste" persona, which comes off as creepy and contrived. Obviously it never works.
One more little tidbit: while men can be attracted to an unlimited number of women, there is some evidence to suggest that females are at least partially attracted (via smell) to males whose genetics (major histocompatibility complex) is the most dissimilar to theirs. So what does this mean? You probably can't make attraction happen if it's not in the genes.
Whatever you do, please just relax a little and learn to put "rejection" in its proper context. The fact is that everyone experiences it and the more nonplussed by it you are, the more women will find you attractive. And, by the way, getting out in the sun a little, losing that tire around your middle and getting a little muscle tone will do wonders too.
Well said. I just have one point to add... (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:Three things. (Score:3, Insightful)
Yeah, so I'm a jerk / party animal, but I think those people who "try hard" and wind up marrying the first person they meet are absolutely pathetic / desperate. How about a man who worked the same job for 40 years, and ends up hanging himself in the shed because it took them that long to realize he wanted something else, now it's too late to start over.
I say fail, and fail miserably! Try everything until you can honestly sit down with a complete stranger and tell them precisely what you look for in a partner, with all the details and nuances. Analogy: fifteen years ago when I started dabbling with audio equipment, I was clueless. I couldn't tell the good from the bad, and I kept getting shafted by every dealer in the biz. After a few years of experimenting and much time & money spent, I considered myself a sound freak and was able to seek out the best gear for my tastes (and budget) with minimal effort and confusion, balancing my personal preferences with the inevitable compromises of the loudspeaker industry. Today, all I need is 5 seconds to "feel out" a product and immediately gauge if it will please me and fit with the rest of my setup.
I can tell you for a fact, the people I dated in my youth weren't anything like the later picks, and frankly if I had stayed with those early flings, well I'd have killed them all eventually! What those "bad" relationships did is help me figure out, through extensive trial and error, who I am and what I truly want. The tricky thing is that most people, including myself, can't figure out what they want, so we have to identify and eliminate what we don't want and take it from there. It's far easier to hate someone over one little peeve, than to see the dozen great things about them. That's human nature.
So what if they're both math geeks ? Y'know what ? I'm a math geek too, does that mean I should be dating the same ? See above paragraph involving murder. Sure, I like my women to have a mental pulse, and it sure drives me foolish when the wife messes up basic arithmetic, but it's not like I want to discuss polynomials in bed for the rest of my pre-homicide life.
Re:Uh... a normal party? (Score:1, Insightful)
Re:Three things. (Score:4, Insightful)
But this is
The trick is to do things she and her friends like in unexpected and subtle ways. For example, arrange the appetizers in the Fibonacci series (or get really daring and stack them vertically using Pascal's triangle). Use geometry to decorate (especially Pi) - how about a 3D model of some ungodly shape (like the tings you find in the Discovery Channel store) as a centerpiece?
But most importantly don't overdo it! You want people to have fun first and be reminded that they're math geeks last. But then again, I usually just make a crapton of food, get some hooch, and put Zeppelin on the stereo. The good times tend to take care of themselves.
Re:Scrap Barry White (Score:3, Insightful)
I put that in bold. Dude should go dressed as his favorite number. Bring some booze, a smile, and some jokes about math. Some of that "Study Girls" advice up there could be put to good use also, but seriously if this guy's going after a girl that's throwing the party she's (likely) going to fall for someone that makes her party more like a part and less like a damn study group. DO NOT alienate the girls friends that aren't good at math.
Re:Three things. (Score:5, Insightful)
Or, to put it another way, [bash.org]
(And by the way, chicks dig bash.org. Really.)
Re:Ask at xkcd (Score:4, Insightful)
Seriously! I don't know why this thread is so bitter. I actually would have though
One guy sounds actually angry that anyone would dare try to come up with a party he would find fun since he is a math guy. The dating experts against throwing the party in the first place are idiots. Girls like fun/social/entertaining guys that can get things done, planning and executing a unique party is a good thing!
I really have no relevant advice to the question asked other than ignore all the assholes and have fun.
Re:MOD PARENT DOWN (Score:5, Insightful)
There's some truth in what both of you have to say really. Being yourself and getting the girl are just not going to happen if your life mainly consists of sitting in your basement playing video games.
That said, searching for dates is really only good for finding one thing--dates. You may get laid or meet the girl of your dreams, but you're mostly going to spend money on dinners, drinks and movies for somebody's company for a few hours. If you just enjoy dating for the sake of dating (and many people do), all that is fine. A lot of the advice out there on the internet is targeted towards guys who want to date more and get laid more.
If you're looking for that serious, long term relationship though, well, you shouldn't actually be looking for it. People who are looking hard for relationships tend to be the last ones who should be in a relationship as they're often needy, insecure and desperate. The best relationships are the ones that you sort of stumble across while doing something else. Obviously, playing video games at home all day is unlikely to provide an environment where this can happen.
Beyond changing significant, alterable aspects of yourself (like not bathing or generally being disgusting), the key is not to stop being yourself, but rather to improve yourself such that other people can find you "being yourself" more interesting. One easy way to do that is to undertake some new hobbies or activities where there will be the kind of people you'd like to end up in a relationship with around. For some people, dating more (and making themselves more datable) is such a hobby. For others, it might be taking an art class or learning to ballroom dance or working on a politician's campaign.
Re: Reimmannian folding conjunction Kuhns patches (Score:2, Insightful)
Yeah. That'll win 'er over.
Re:Three things. (Score:4, Insightful)
Re:Three things. (Score:4, Insightful)
We're designed to have children from our mid teens on. You should probably hold off till mid 20s but beyond that it gets harder, not easier. Do you really think it's easy or clever trying to have and raise a child STARTING in your late 30s? I'm starting in my early 30s and finding it daunting.
Yeah, so I'm a jerk / party animal, but I think those people who "try hard" and wind up marrying the first person they meet are absolutely pathetic / desperate
So are those people who are so picky, socially unskilled or so disloyal that they wake up at 40, realize they've been a big kid all their life, and marry the first person they can latch onto that will have their sad, pathetic, mutton dressed as lamb selves.
How about a man who worked the same job for 40 years, and ends up hanging himself in the shed because it took them that long to realize he wanted something else, now it's too late to start over.
If you hate your job that badly either find something else to make a living at or fill your time away from work with things that interest you. (Preferably do both).
I say fail, and fail miserably! Try everything until you can honestly sit down with a complete stranger and tell them precisely what you look for in a partner, with all the details and nuances.
If you're too picky and have an inflexible list, you'll likely wind up alone. You should have several lists - what you can put up with, or won't. What you think is essential in a partner, and what's nice to have. The the hard part is to realize life isn't perfect and you certainly won't get all your nice to haves and may still have to find a balance compromising some of the essentials (but if you get it wrong your life turns to shite).
I can tell you for a fact, the people I dated in my youth weren't anything like the later picks, and frankly if I had stayed with those early flings, well I'd have killed them all eventually! What those "bad" relationships did is help me figure out, through extensive trial and error, who I am and what I truly want.
We all grow and change. Part of the challenge is to include your partners in that growth and change so that you don't grow apart. If you've changed so much, have you considered that your former partners may also have changed drastically?
The tricky thing is that most people, including myself, can't figure out what they want, so we have to identify and eliminate what we don't want and take it from there. It's far easier to hate someone over one little peeve, than to see the dozen great things about them. That's human nature.
Realize that you may not get what you want even if you work out what that is. You do have to compromise.
Hate takes a lot of effort. It comes from being stuck with someone you don't want to be with, or from them having done you harm (either suddenly or over the course of the relationship).
So what if they're both math geeks ? Y'know what ? I'm a math geek too, does that mean I should be dating the same ?
There are pros and cons. Having someone that can understand your life's work in detail would be a wonderful thing, but so can the variety of bringing in a whole other set of talents, skills and and passions. I'm a coder who wanted to be a scientist for a long time. My wife is a primary school teacher with strong artist tendancies. One reason our relationship works so well is that we enrich each other's lives and expose each other to things we'd never have looked into on our own. It's about having the RIGHT things in common (similar attitudes, beliefs, goals), not about having everything in common or everything opposite. THEN it's about compromise and genuinely caring about the other person's happiness enough to make sacrifices and still be happy.
Re:sigh. (Score:3, Insightful)
Re: Be a BETTER self instead of just YOUR self. (Score:2, Insightful)
Re:Three things. (Score:3, Insightful)
Actually that does work, just not the way you think.
It doesn't mean 'rescued her' it means a physically fit guy with land and money rescued her.